Damn You Society

After tossing and turning last night, I needed to vent and this "poem" is what appeared.  I am not a poet, but it was therapeutic to write and share my feelings.  My goal with any public post, is to create dialogue and hopefully help someone else.

Going through a doc program is crazy and anyone who does it is a little crazy.  Why anyone puts themselves through this is beyond me...but I love it.  Some of this writing is a result of a good but long semester, and most of it is just growing through this thing called life, in a "post-racial" America.  When I have the energy, I will blog more about that later.

My doctorsisters (my PhD cohorts and very very close friends) and I are starting a new venture (is that what we are calling it B & D?!) so stay tuned for doctorsisters.com.

As always, your comments and opinions are welcome here.  Follow the blog and find me on YouTube (Trinity Wellness)...because I don't have a million things to do already, lol!

Damn you society for making me feel as if something is wrong with me.
Damn you society for all the pressures you put on women.
Damn you society for the pressure to be skinny, but everyone else modifies their body to look like what I was naturally blessed with.
Damn you society for poisoning the minds of my beautiful, black people; telling us all our men are gay or incarcerated.
Damn you society for all the “go to college, find a husband, and do it all before 25” rhetoric.
Damn you society for saying that women should be married.
Damn you society for telling me all the things I am doing are in the wrong order.
Damn you society for telling me black women are baby mommas and not pretty enough.
Damn you society for making me feel inferior for not having/wanting kids.
Damn you society for dangling the carrot of higher education in front of me, then telling me I won’t find a man now because I'm too educated.
Damn you society for making me work harder than my white and/or male counterparts for less pay and accolades.
Damn you society for making me feel less than.
Enough.
This pressure is toxic.  It encourages us to stay in bad relationships in order to “check the box”.  It makes me dumb myself down.  It makes me push away the good ones who are taking their time with me.

I am happy and good enough just the way I am.  On my own timeline.  Following my own rules. PhD.

I am creating a new mold for black women, for me, for any future daughters.  Damn society and its rules.  DO. YOU!


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